It means quite a lot. It is the very social change embodied right there. Same goes with youth in general. There has to be a continuum of youth rebellion every time all the time.

What about when she is testing her limits, testing limits there are, testing nerves, ideas, conventions and habits, habits of thought? Limits that are there for obvious reasons, for sensible reasons, religious and traditional reasons, maybe reasons that are not valid anymore. Talk about matters of defining difficult behavior, difficult personality and what are the expectations for girls and women when we talk about personality and what girls can do. Where is the difficulty? To me it seems there is nothing but hardship and struggle what comes to gender gaps and fulfilling expectations. Easily females are as we know taught to fulfill expectations (we are brought up more or less to act up, behave, learn to live up to our civilization’s demands) as are boys, but in a different way and there are people who do not tolerate any kind of rebellion, anger, mind of one’s own for a girl to have. If life is a list of demands to be lived up, list that one has not made oneself, list that is not your own but is given to you without thinking there might be a different kind of dreams and lives to want. Difficult many times begins when expectations and manners are broken, when girl shows she has a mind of her own, life of her own to have and make. What is the difficulty in there, I’m not sure, I’m not getting it fully, but I put it on people who dislike and fear the unexpected, fear change, growing up, who are actually afraid of their children, afraid that children are not the same as parents. What is difficult? To understand your children are not yours? What is a difficult child too difficult to handle and why do we need to handle a child? To be afraid what children will become, that they will bring shame to the family is a common fear anywhere in the world. Why would you be ashamed of your child? Therefore discipline and scare are used to keep children from having strange ideas like becoming what they want themselves to be. A difficult child is something who is giving parents a hard time. We can ask who would not be a difficult child and why rebelling against parents is so terrifying that many won’t dare to follow their dreams or be open about what they are as people. Afraid that love and acceptance is taken away.

Question is why girls and boys are set different boundaries, given different goals, ideas of life? What is with bringing up kids? It is clear genders do get brought up in a different way, how could this cage where we are put in be opened up and people wouldn’t be afraid to test themselves and society more. What are we protecting when we focus on girls to be careful and obedient more than boys? How to be more tolerant of and open about the difficult in us?