How do you look at people? How do you look at women? Do you look at men differently and why? Do you think of people’s clothing, that their looks make stories of them who they are and what do those details tell you? Do you compare yourself to others? Do you have specific ideas of what certain people should be wearing and look like to be accepted and respected? What does appearance mean to you and how important it is for you as means of expression, telling of status, ideas, occupation, priorities, wealth, interests, character, intellect, creativity and what goes on in someone’s mind and life? How much of this thinking process is rational and what is irrational, how much is based on feelings and hanging on to stereotypes? How much do you enjoy people get hurt? What do you make of this hurt?
How much do you judge people by their appearance and how does that happen? Is a constant way for you to put people down in their places to be controlled and bullied, you above or on the same level? How does that make you feel? What do you do when you judge, what kind of process is it? Do you do it without hesitation, without second thought? Do you make visible reactions, gestures, do you speak of what you have seen, a version of yours to someone who will have same kind of reactions and thoughts as you do? What kinds of reactions do you show and give to people or do you keep those assumptions to yourself? Do you ever wonder why do you think the way you do? How do you understand justification for behaviour where people are what they look like, that people represent specific types of people who do not change, which they can’t help and change, over which they do not have power. What do you think when people are unable to have a say over what is spoken of them, that it is taken for granted people are what they look like, represent and this is passed forward as such without being self-critical. People who speak of other people and their ‘flaws’ surely are perfect, aren’t they. Situation is they have been granted acceptance within a group and from that security they speak. How weak is that. To understand our weaknesses is to admit to them.
Physical violence is not the only form of violence and when you see blood you can either scream or do something about it. How much do you think you have responsibility on what you say, how much your word weighs, how trustworthy are you? What is your responsibility concerning judgment, equality, human rights and human relations? What do you think keeps segregation, class, bullying, fear of difference alive, gaps between us? Who is interested in truth and how to find it?
Could you analyse these sentences: I find you interesting. Do you like anal sex?
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P.S. You can tell me whether you like anal sex or not and why. I don’t base my interest on anyone by sexual preferences or try to trick by telling first someone is interesting and would you have kinky sex with me kind of way if you know what I mean. Thank you.