To understand

It is demanding to be kind to people.
It is demanding to be kind to the world.
It is demanding to be kind to animals.
It is demanding to be kind to strangers.
It is demanding to be kind to those you know. It is demanding to be kind to those you don’t know.
It is demanding to be kind towards nature.
It is demanding to be kind to yourself.
It is demanding to be kind to insects.
It is demanding to be kind to people you do not like.
It is demanding to be kind to people you are mean to. It is demanding to be kind to the street.

To understand what is and what is not.
To understand what you are and what you are not.
To understand why and why not.
To understand what you can do and what you can’t.
To understand how all happens and how things do not.
To understand what is said and what is not.
To understand this place and not.
To understand what to say and not.
To understand what is your place and what is not.
To understand right and wrong and not.
To understand how things work and not.
To understand your potential and not.

Women who do not fit the category given to them. Could be also said people who do not fit in and there are many.

What is to fit in,; in what do we need to fit in? In highly controlled societies to my experience mental illness, out-of-order behavior, oddness scare people and bring out feelings of contempt. Such oddities must be cleaned away for them not to influence and inflict disorder and issues too demanding to handle and face. It has been a great disappointment and constant topic of surprise to find out over and over again the relic of disgust against those who do not fit in. For many just being an artist is a case of severe mental imbalance and distancing begins to we and them. This happens inside art and out of the so-called scene which itself is highly disturbing dilemma in modern society, dilemma of why there is an entity of art world that delusional protects space of its own, note space of its own ideology. We surely know what does that resemble of. Is she ok, is she presentable, is she good and so forth: Can she be a seriously taken artist, respect? Obviously good is something that is strictly defined and those who are wed to know what is good know without saying anything, without thinking what good is, could be and of course what is bad.
Personal experience here is important. It is actually all from which to grow.
I have an experience of being abandoned. Abandonment is the sole experience of mine that is the biggest and happens over and over again. Something I cannot understand but have to try because of the repetition. There is something wrong in me, with me is the message and I have to hate myself for those reasons. To hate myself is to abandon myself. When hate turns against oneself one begins to get ill. Because of what I look like, because of my gender, because of the things I choose to do, choose to be and say there are very peculiar hateful responses that put me in place of different, of not belonging which equal the experience of everything that is ill in society not in me. Being a wrong kind of person is in me the illness of society, in me, but nothing in everybody else. It is strange to be the only one to bear a burden of existing as different. Lunacy there is in display. It is that one person has to be isolated because she is a threat on many levels. One striking occasion for me personally, one of many was when I was about sixteen and I was going out with my friends to a disco. I put on little make-up which I rarely did and a tight black long dress. I was not told directly that I look too beautiful to fit in that dress, to that punch of friends, to be approved of as beautiful. I was let to understand with innuendos and left alone at the disco. What I did was wrong because my looks must not be celebrated, not to be put in front and I could not be striking. Nothing and no one should strike out but to blend in. I could not celebrate myself. My appearance has been a burden for the reason of the striking difference and attention it brings. The moment of being left alone was a complete wake up and the silence has been and was a tale of all that is negative, disapproval and that I should not be any different. Me to speak of my appearance is itself banned topic since it is to celebrate myself and that I cannot do. We have nothing but a world full of examples where women are to blame for their bodies and their looks and they are punished for being women.
Scissor Sisters – Any Which Way give a very comprehensive history of the origins of psychiatry. And of course, historically, women were often psychiatrized for behaving in certain ways…or just existing in the world, right?

Women were psychiatrized either for stereotypically being women, or for veering too far from the stereotypes. Either one. As for what’s happening now, today, there is no question that there are stereotypical women’s diseases — e.g., “borderline personality disorder” — and there is no question that women are way more likely to end up being given a “disorder” than a man, also to be given more serious ones.”

For those who violently protect something they think should not be altered.

Primitive reactions towards women and girls who want to be as active and innovative makers as men are open wide and tolerated as men see their space threatened, their territory getting invaded and changed. Why are there such territories that are exclusive to women? There are quite many areas of expertise that could be listed that discriminate and bully women for this reason: it is not traditionally seen as something women do, so they should not do it in the future. Reason and logic do not have anything to do with this decision-making. As tech industry likes to parade the thought of world-changing so fast, the picture is not as victorious science-fictionally fantastic. Changes come in many surprising ways and are on many levels as are things and ideas that hinder change. Surely you guys understand what I mean. What truly takes intellect is to comprehend what change really is and takes, what kind of change is needed and coming. To be able to change clothes into intelligent wear and make self-driving cars are not the most groundbreaking necessary change for mankind. 
Those who are scared get aggressive towards women for ruining their fun, boys’ club, which is not for women as we are so different and are not boys. We do not think like the opposite sex and we have opinions we like to say aloud. Aggression and violence are for some reason still tools used by men to keep women out, who get too scared to try to say against. Most scared I am if I will not try to pursue things I see vital and interesting to do. Most harm done is by people who see only black and white, fundamentalists who do not see the colors and benefits variety bring. To be able to learn from someone different from yourself is a gift. Women have been held back and have not been able to use their talents nor intellect in every way possible because they would have outnumber men. Men are scared women will be superior. It surely is a threat if you persistently wish to fight against equality and want to keep the power which is not yours only. Same has happened within the arts and science. Women’s voices will be heard and acknowledged. It is time to stop the primitive patriarchal bigotry and start living the bright future.

Places of critique and how to.

It all too clear that institutions, which some people think are themselves, as personification of power, monumental and solid, and broadly seen institutions as structural entities and complexes that have a massive amount of power within the fields they work, so easily place themselves above criticism. This is a road to regression where nothing changes until it is forced to change and usually it means heads rolling usually of those who give the vital criticism. There are too many people who hold on to gained positions thinking it is their right and theirs alone. That is one common form of dictatorship. The more up one climbs the more one has to be able to accept criticism and answer to it, be accountable. As it is so that people do not climb the stairs up without help of friends there is a danger of cocooning into the power tower as perfect and untouchable with skills and intellect which others can dream of.
This topic touches many areas of life, science and art are the ones that are difficult to criticise because the nature of those fields embraces cult of geniuses who know the absolute right, who have expertise that most people do not have. Personality cults are therefore dangerous what comes to integrity, trustworthiness, progress and finding new. Self-love that is more interested in being right all the time rejecting the balancing effect of critique is very harmful.
Place of critique is always when one suspects foul play, dishonesty, disrespect, playing to get the most profit and glory, when the field of work is in many ways corrupt holding too much on to the same old same old without even wanting to change the tone and tune.
“Tim Hunt criticised female scientists because they “always cry” when criticised. While this would be somewhat disruptive if true (which it isn’t), this is still a far less problematic response than holding an intense lifelong grudge against someone who criticised you, and doing your best to make their life difficult and miserable.”