What is respect? Who gets it? Is it when you get something from someone then you can respect that person who gave you something? Respect as giving returns.

We understand differently what is respect, right? Since it is obvious for some it falls on the lap and some have to earn it, some never gain respect. As it seems all people are not respected equally then what is respect? It has become to mean a difference between classes, age, wealth and gender. What do we have respect for there are our values. Our appreciation to something is a direct reflection of our world around and what we are accustomed to value and respect. What we loath and make distance to. It can be very unconscious, yet very much unquestioned method and view via liking, loving, disliking and hating. It is quite amazing how much without thinking such emotional and irrational choices get made. We like to think respect is good manners and taking into consideration that one is not alone in this world. That guideline is good basic idea of civilized mutual respect, to not cause hurt, awkward moments. There may come a point when those so-called good manners fail and they are nothing but theater with not much meaning but to keep something going on without change.

How to respect, what is respect?

Does the word respect have a clang of old-school and stiffness about it in a way that there is something that needs to be changed how we see what it is to respect someone? There is respect in manners and paying attention to how we treat each other, take others into consideration, but that is not all what comes to respect. When I often call out for respect for women it is not a call for manners and opening doors or bowing your heads towards me, taking your hat off when passing by. Respect is entirely something else, which many times seems to be absent in the meaning I am after. Is respect something we earn and is given when we deserve it? Is respect presence, present when we are, not to think there is something better elsewhere, but something interesting is here where you are at? To me respect is exactly the acknowledging the importance of something and someone in that place. Acknowledging is not a trophy or a prize, it is noticing and wanting to know. It is paying attention instead of seeking something that is a higher far away goal. The better than attitude is so common I have become to loath it and places where such attitude for some reason is winning.
Respect is finding the same level and enjoying that level, exploring and getting to know it. Yes one can be ambitious and aim high. There are wrong ways and right ways to get there. Wrong way is the way of deceit and thinking about the prize.