Arrested woman

How much is left for imagination? What imagination? Woman’s work.

What is shown when female body is pictured in flesh? There is not much variation nor much left for art. What about what is asked of women who are in show business: how do you look so youthful, what is your secret, who is you favorite designer, do you have a face lift, are your body parts your own, how many times have you been married, will this last forever, how old are you and will you keep on working, why do you work?

 The journalist mentions, it is extraordinary, that a woman poses in Playboy at the age of 49.

Really really

What is the problem when gazing opposite sex is normal, as it is, fun for some and unavoidable? Things perceived as normal can be wrong despite the normalcy. Sense of norms that bind us together and down that are there for reasons which maybe don’t apply anymore, reasons that keep us struggling against norm society, bias and unjust behavior. What is normal does not mean it is right and should not be changed. If one cannot help oneself, what is there to hope for. The extent, manner of approach which can be monotonously aggressive and unpleasant. Problematic is the position other person is viewed, from which point of view one is looked at and as what that other person is seen. What that view is meant to be and signal. Is it a signal to other men, not to women that much, that the man gazing is sexually active, straight and ready to have sex, has eye for female beauty? The gaze is to state a true man, manhood and virility. Gazes gazed.

 

 

Authority of physicality, authority of gender

It is somehow feminine and childlike to act obediently, to be a subject naturally. To take that place of being told to, being defined by others, because it is your place given to you as one is born a girl. Something we are expected of doing is to believe in this enslavement and the image of perfect subhuman, because in that way women will be loved. If women rebel, do things in the ugly way, unexpected, rude and shameful they become something else. They become outcasts and criminally flawed that must be avoided, loathed and killed.
Macho men do not back down, do not take anybody’s advise. They only listen to those who are similarly macho, trust the tradition of true man, power of true man staying the same. Macho men  are on the same line with each other so to speak, in a way. Listening to women’s or children’s opinions and thoughts is a waste of time for them. What would they have to say to pay attention to anyway. We have learned to believe in the physical size and the confidence it brings, power of it. Threat of being beaten down and abandoned is risky, but it has to be taken to change something that does not want to change. Something I have been wondering about is the authority of physicality, how tirelessly it holds on to us and we believe in it. How it equals or doesn’t with mental capacity, mental strength, righteousness and value. Authority of knowing what is right to do for anybody and how life should be lived.
In countries where women are inferior and silenced, in which they are almost a different species compared to men authority of men is indisputable, undeniable. Women do not have a say over their lives, over anything that concern lives of theirs. Good example are the women’s rights/human rights conferences by in the Middle east. (I have seen pictures but do not know what goes on in such conferences.) Conferences with total absence of women. Where women are not allowed nor asked to speak. Stupidest thing is that men usually do not have a slightest idea how a woman feels, thinks or what womanhood is about nor what might be wrong. For men there is nothing wrong. Everything is fine. What it is to become a woman in this kind of environment surely must be disappointing. In the light of lack human rights for women it is rather alarming that men decide and think they know what to say for women and girls without question.
How will men know what women are about and when will they allow women to speak for themselves? It should be right about time.