My claim is we live with and via violence which has biological and system-based grounds and reasons, violence which is rooted in our culture, in our body and there isn’t much we can do to remove the desire to see violence and be violent. Much is due to how we are brought up, where we live, what we have experienced, how we see our ways of solving our way ahead, what other people mean to us and how other people can be treated. What does it mean to be a human, a man and a woman. What kind of stand point we take to violence and what kind of things can be solved with hurt. Simply what do we see as hurtful and do we see hurt as part of everyday. To me it has been revealed as something many do not notice in their behavior and they see as justified action. The justified violence which is hidden behind good, cute and acceptable.

Violence that is a needed method to express when other methods are ineffective, used when other ways of living and solving are seen as naive is the normal, hidden violence is just as normal. Violence is a way to say my body and mind are powerful and you should be afraid of me. To rule with fear is a nonstop easy, a way to directly solve difficult human mess where digging deep is time-consuming and takes much work, mental effort, mental and spiritual growth. One example is the traditional way of finding honor in killing, via taking a life something is cleaned, purified and solved, ended. I have been wondering do those who commit honour killing mourn those who they have killed? Is it a victory to hunt and slaughter someone who has brought shame? How is this victory celebrated when name is cleaned and how clean do these people feel themselves?

Sadism is in details, in how we face or do not that other human being. It can be happening unknowingly without thinking following something that feels right at the time. Afterwards you can ask why did you do that and you do not find an answer other than it was fun, it was just a joke, I felt like doing so, I didn’t like her.. Answers usually are based on emotional feedback, on a whim, on a righteous arrogant idea of being on right path, emotional reward one’s body is feeding, situations when our minds are not reasoning us to behave otherwise. Sadism also follows grouping and an example, desire we maybe can’t explain. We become accustomed to it, it brings us joy of being above someone we consider pathetic and weak. Our need to measure weakness and strength is very much traditional in our cultural heritage, which is difficult to fight back. It is difficult to be nonviolent alone. What are biological, gender-based, cultural, religious, traditional and political reasons to put someone down is probably the most important question for us to solve for the sake of peace, for prosperity and finding a nonviolent world, as much as it possible to find.