women

How do we put emotions forward?

| Henna Timanttimetsä
To educate one’s emotional intellect is something all could start practicing. Facing anything bad is a daily nonstop act that somehow have to be tolerated, because ill is a norm of human behavior. I am interested in the concepts of time such as constant, instant and immediate, a moment that passed, that is now, was, what is coming and what we might feel in a moment, in a flash, suddenly and when we wonder what happened and what one felt and why. What did it make one do. What made one feel the way one did and what kind of reaction that feeling caused, feelings given, feelings felt, ignored, unspoken, but never unimportant. How much people around are aware of emotions passers-by have? Do they have emotional faces, postures, way to walk and talk. We are very sensitive what comes to receiving emotional messages, that is a hypersensitive non-verbal communication and message is instant and can be misinterpreted. Our emotional giveaway is interpreted all the time.
Mostly what I wonder is how it is so easy to respond to negative message than it is to positive. Positive is taken for granted and can be seen as weakness. Rudeness is a kind of sign of strength. True strength is to respond with kindness to someone who is unkind.

http://www.unh.edu/emotional_intelligence/ei%20What%20is%20EI/ei%20definition.htm
”Emotion. In this model, emotion refers to a feeling state (including physiological responses and cognitions) that conveys information about relationships. For example, happiness is a feeling state that also conveys information about relationships — typically, that one would like to join with others. Similarly, fear is a feeling state that corresponds to a relationship — the urge to flee others.”

 

Woman’s body was found, girl’s body was found

Kuva | | Henna Timanttimetsä

 

Art and act of seeing

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imagening a walk

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Flesh market, market of flesh after something

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Ok, first my personal experience of growing up to be self-evidently a woman was that womanhood is a kind of fullness and dirtiness of sexuality in men’s world for men, not for herself, nor that the world would be for me or her, that female body is at every response and dimension laughable and for someone else to hold and look at. What makes that of me, made me and what did it make me think of me and of the world? Femininity makes people grin, idea of feminine woman is that she is after something, something that she cannot have without having her assets pushed in front. To see female breasts and other parts of female body brings a strange immediate chain of thoughts and again a repetition of grand sexism with laughter. It is without exception the case the ridicule of what a girl is about to be, the ridicule of what she might want, want to be and why she wants, what would she might want. Because of my body parts there cannot be a brain worth mentioning was the only thought and has been somehow a solid statement despite whatever I did, the issue by what I am defined by others, it would not change nor go away no matter what I did. No evidence would change the woman in me, who is half the man doomed to be jailed and diminished because she is a curse and a menace. Incapable.
As I think of this it is a pretty powerful image of womanhood exactly because the reverse upside down image I have been forced into, because of the black and white in which one is either good or bad man or woman. She is so powerful and mighty that she is feared and has to be harnessed and silenced since she was a little girl. What she might be is already as a thought too much to take.
“Whenever black women own their sense of sexuality and it appears to not be controlled by the hetero-male gaze, the whole world gets into a tizzy,”Feministing writer Mychal Denzel Smith wrote. He continued, “If black women aren’t allowed to own their sexuality, then who does it belong to?”
http://jezebel.com/behind-every-bullied-woman-is-a-man-yelling-about-free-1629502544/+morninggloria
”In the pursuit of some elusive, undefined web ideal, women’s mental and physical safety is (and always has been) an afterthought.”

You can do it

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Please stand behind my back to observe me. I need to be scaled, weight, measured, poked, humiliated, let know what I am in your eyes. Please fuck me in the ass, in my mouth, insult me any way you can. Stick it. You can do it. I have no doubt. You are so strong and powerful, beat me, defeat me, loath me. I am your scapegoat, your boxing bag. The more you do it, the more human you are.

http://www.lambdaliterary.org/features/08/13/bad-romance-writers-and-suicide/
”And hang onto whatever feels permanent and real. Jeanette Winterson said that “Art saved me. It got me through my depression and self-loathing, back to a place of innocence.” But she also suggests a way out that is not suicide: “If you continually write and read yourself as a fiction, you can change what’s crushing you.” 

Those who do not act against bullying accept it.

Who said

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Sometimes I think is demonizing the very essence of being human and why is it a popular way of making negative awareness and relations. Making nullification and false information prevail. Do we seek sides in others that are not even there just to be safe and safer, better and the best. It is a right to have when one can speak against and point a finger, separating begins, defending one’s interests. After having faced those turned backs too many times I already know it is not me with a fault, it is I with quite a deal.

Demonizing women is nothing new, it is a way of dealing with issues one cannot deal with, accept and handle. Fear of feminine outlook on life, fear of life itself, fear of love, fear of truth, fear of losing. If women are those who seduce men and therefore have to be veiled from head to toe and hide from being seen, what does it tell about men? To me they seem quite weak if body is the thing making them do hasty and dirty deeds. Their bodies decide what they do. Woman for many is a body to be used and hidden when not needed. The one who obviously is seducing is an evil person. Evilness is in the sex which must not be seen, imagined, known or learned about. The thing that is seen can be damaging. Extremes such as religious veiling are interesting in their simplicity. Strict rules which without exceptions must be obeyed or punishments will be severe. Dear Lord, this is so depressing news.

Which one is more damaging war images or pornography? Can they be compared? I ask because social media, especially Twitter is at the moment buzzing with pictures of deceased victims of wars and I’m thinking it is the worst kind of adult content. And it is real.

 

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Oh yes, about trauma and how one gets traumatized. I think we all are to a point traumatized, because that is the very essence of living. It is unavoidable.

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To be traumatized is a very undervalued thing, because everybody should get traumatized. Life is a case of over-protection we try to maintain, but it is not possible, protection. So how to know what traumatizes, what is actually hurtful and what kind of hurt is something one can take. To what point should we protect our children for example? I mean don’t get traumatized and shit. It is like a joke. Did she get a trauma or something. An emotional shock and a disturbing happening, scary invasion, intrusion by something out of the ordinary which shakes a balance, does something hurtful. Injustice, lovelessness, hate, contempt, long-enduring ill-treatment. Is there something else than that? Hurt causes trauma. Question is do images cause mental imbalance, do images traumatize? Clear is that people do shit to each on daily basis without it being anything out of the ordinary, or without even knowing there would be something wrong about it. How do they get to that place of ignorance and arrogance?

#happytobeawoman? over-joyed

MY dear Lord, I love the art community. Which one? All of them. I really have the deepest faith in you. Cheers art! Keep on standing on the good side. Love the healing you do. Art is not about healing, what the fuck did you think. What is it about, because if they wish art to be cute as washed vagina. Is that your idea of cute? I don’t know. It’s a show off. O’ dear, I’m confused.

In short what I have to say about art scene as it is called is this: It is full of shit, full of pretentious fucks who have a high opinion of themselves, who like to net work and play buddies. It is a sadistic playground of shallow idiots. There is a trauma for you, sadly it is very real.