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Who can say to be a woman? Is one with genitals of a woman, those outside and inside body with hormonal functions of a woman and bodily cycles of a woman.

| Henna Timanttimetsä
Personally I very much like women who speak their minds and stick to what they think is right. What comes to what sex we feel we are we should be is the agony of contemporary people who have endless desires and needs that must be fulfilled. Well, you are the sex you are born to, this I agree with. Whether transgender people and transsexuals feel they are more women than women normally I want to ask what is more woman than a woman? How dare you diminish womanhood of anybody who is born female. Is sexuality the most ruling characteristic in being human, something to be altered, something to parade and compete with, something to constantly go through and be traumatized with, something that you can build with plastic surgery if you have the money. You can make a scene of yourself, a fabrication and an act of being a woman. When womanhood is clothes and makeup, maneuvers of extravaganza and theatrical flamboyance to show off to be the most feminine you can be what are you other than a pose and fake. To be more than a woman is someone who also is a man, that is two sexes in one body at least. Figure out a new name for that sex, won’t you and be proud of that creation without imitation. Germaine Greer has right to her opinions. She is not violating anybody. To be able to tolerate difference is something transgender people should obviously learn.

www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/10/men-talk-about-periods/411931/ ” In one 2011 study, researchers asked a group of college-aged men to describe how they had learned about menstruation. The responses had a few common themes, the authors observed: The men had largely picked up snippets of knowledge from female family members and, later on, girlfriends, but by and large were still fuzzy on the basic mechanics of the female reproductive system. “Boys’ early learning about menstruation is haphazard,” the researchers wrote. “The mysterious nature of what happens to girls contributes to a gap in boys’ knowledge about female bodies and to some negative views about girls.””

Difficulty of giving living wages for cleaners.

| Henna Timanttimetsä
It is a global issue how underpaid and undervalued people who do cleaning work are. It is heavy and often times hazardous work working with toxic mediums and dirt, tolerating bullying and arrogance, sheer contempt for people who do low rated work, who haven’t made it up in the world which is a very bizarre outlook and place to be, to make it up to office. It is clear there are serious problems in how people who do jobs that do not seem to require training, intellect or college degrees are treated, contempt would not be more evident. There is strict policy of ordering, telling without much bargaining or saying against, otherwise one may lose one’s job and there are always people who will replace those who say what should be correct way for supervisors to do concerning employees. It is sad that there are people who continue to work even though employer does not treat workers correctly, does not pay adequate living wage, does not pay holiday pay nor sick leave. It is difficult if one is on one’s own dealing with these demanding issues that when addressed might cause losing one’s job. Threat that is always there is telling that things are not right. We do live in a way that work is essential, a measure of one’s worth, and to be unemployed is something we don’t want to experience, but without raising these questions in front with examples nothing will ever change or it will get worse. When life is depended on that job threat truly is visible and real.
http://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/oct/19/five-cleaners-tell-their-stories”They look at us as if we’re nothing. When they were refurbishing the building, the FCO was throwing out a nice sofa. I asked the porter if he could leave it to me for my home. My bosses became really angry and said I couldn’t take it because it belonged to the FCO, even though others usually pick up unwanted things or they are given to charity. The next day they destroyed the sofa. That upset me.””

Dear diary, my hair.

| Henna Timanttimetsä

All male panel on how to become a woman. Best of Pussy. You create yourself.

| Henna Timanttimetsä

Also men having an expert conversation on menstruation is one I would like to go and listen to.

How does one become a woman, to become part of a gender that is specific, recognizable, is to know what are the things people of that gender do and what they look like, are about. What are women about then? The problem of being part of a pure idea, a perfect ideal to live by can be binding, womanhood which is controlled and firmly obedient to tradition. Obedience is strongly expected of young women as it is for children. Women who act against the rules have something wrong with them. There is something wrong with her, she is not right, she is trouble, she is wild, she is a warning sign. Women who do not fit in, do not fill up given criteria, do not appeal, please and do right are punished, silenced, killed, abandoned, isolated, stigmatized etc. Means are many and they are in use all over the world. Men do the talking for women, have opinion on women’s issues, lives, looks, decisions, education, rights and prohibitions.

One becomes a woman realizing there are fewer options for women than for men. She understands she is not allowed to do the same things as men are, she utterly sees how different her life is compared to men and it is very difficult to change that situation. This is one way to womanhood, comprehending it. To be a woman is to learn to defend oneself, defend children, defend childhood, take care of others, be emotional, be what you are expected to be and still be more, do otherwise than you are expected, do what you want to do and face the consequences. Caring, kind, speaking softly, not speaking, not daring, avoiding dark alleys, strangers, avoid stigma of any kind, or you can have your own way and face the consequences.

A never-ending mirroring of your body and image. Hey beautiful how are you feeling?
First you get yourself a pair of tits, you start to think about how you feel, how transformation made you feel from girl to a woman from man to a woman. You are not happy the way you look, you are not happy who you are? You feel bad, you feel good. You are an emotional body figuring out how to be a woman and what a woman does.
You think are your breasts big enough and how they look, how they should look and whose breasts you idolize and think look good and sexy, how your belly looks and is it flat enough. Images in your head. Are you legs long and firm enough, how much skin can you show, how your ass looks and can you wear tight clothing. What kind of response do you want from those who look at you and are you interested in what other people think. How depended women are on other people’s opinion and judgment?

Angel baby

Kuva | | Henna Timanttimetsä

When temper is freakish

| Henna Timanttimetsä
Women with temper are said to be good in bed, women with temper are seen in strange ways which associates with sexuality, funniness, a bit childlike tantrum and troubled mind. You simply cannot lose your temper because to stay calm is what a lady does whatever happens she does not yell, scream back at you, swear, hit, spit at you, give you a speech you have always needed to hear to fall down to the ground. To me that is what a true lady does exactly when there is no other way to be understood. In a world where women are seen inferior, second-class and intellectually incapable calmness is connected to having abilities like strength of mind, maturity and grace. Women with grace who float beautifully doing their tasks in manner that nobody notices, without complaints, tip top smelling good, thanking for everything they get, being happy to have those people who love her around, they bring grace to people who are there to take this lovely grace.
To show anger when there is need is vital. It is vital for children and women who are denied this privilege of showing negative emotions and dissatisfaction. It is necessary for their mental health, to clean the air, to have a conversation, just to explode once in a while is good for you. If people around don’t like it, so what. People cannot stand loud noises, if someone raises her voice it is preposterous, outrageous and disturbing. I myself encourage people to argue, have debates with emotions, not to settle to avoid negative awkward moments but to live and talk them through. Solving problems that can escalate much bigger when left unsolved. To be tolerant towards negative emotions of yours and others’ means the effort and will to understand why such emotions occur and exist. Emotions cause an awful lot of trouble and hurt. To understand emotions is crucial to understanding humans, it is crucial to understand yourself. Why do you feel the way you do, how to confront that problem of emotional self, emotional life to live with variety of feelings, to live with those feelings which may come to you every day like anxiety, anger, hate, envy, feeling of misery and lost, emptiness.
I put my temper in to work. I work with my rage, with all of it. It is an undying one, painful and creative. I use my anger to make art and to write. I cannot stand mildness, situations where there is pretense and I have to hide my self as if I was something terrible and ugly, hide me in disguise of well-mannered middle class fucker. That is intolerable.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/prisca-dorcas-mojica-rodriguez/spicy_b_8020760.html?utm_hp_ref=latino-voices&ir=Latino+Voices&ncid=tweetlnkushpmg00000052”When I hear you call me spicy, I think: yes, I might be. But do not reduce this contextual reaction to my lived-realities because of how different it is from yours.”

What we hear is true? What are we seeing?

| Henna Timanttimetsä
evil eye, curious eye, lazy eye, blind eye
 
You can look at the evidence and still not believe because of your bias and what you have heard from a reliable source? What we learn to believe true may also affect, who do we think is reliable and why do we think so. To think for yourself is much advised, always reconsider, always look for a second opinion, maybe even third.
 
 

 

Manhood that attacks is manhood of weakness and insecurity.

| Henna Timanttimetsä
It is most strange and it is simple as hell and it happens over and over again. I’m personally sick of it and men who highlight their superiority give me the creeps. but hey that’s just me, maybe and most definitely there are women who really are turned on by such posing of masculinity where weakness is to be female. When you have to point out your manliness via cars, position, money, friends etc. it is disgusting. Backstabbing females are the other thing I really loath. You are the true scum on Earth. Take note. Sadly for such people to admit failure and making mistakes is obviously a pain and it tells of people who are unable to grow. Admitting one’s flaws is way to progress. I know for you it is also extremely difficult to admit that you are losing. Defense mechanism is very telling.

In search of manhood

| Henna Timanttimetsä
Case is to find a working formula of how to become a man. All of being a man means there are naturally different men who accept this state of variety, men who can feel themselves whole men without macho attitude and discrimination, without pressure to mold other men. This is benefit of all people and to find new ways of perceiving manhood, masculinity, not via violent patriarch model, but via kindness, acceptance, curiosity and personal growth for all.