Unlucky mentally ill birthplace

It is about the shame of it. Shame of what you stand for and what you are. Denying, blame, abandonment, stupidity, chauvinism, brutal arrogance, violence, diminishing to nonexistence, hate and placing oneself above because one can. People who are afraid to face their minds, their deeds and the fact of being wrong, doing wrong repeatedly and finding justification for things done like nothing else could be done. There is nothing more sorry and pathetic than that. Inability to face the shit you have committed, crime you have done willingly like murder.

People who are afraid of their own illness and oh boy they are soaked with sickness. Why don’t you pour alcohol down your throat, because this is all about you. Drinking makes you the man, the strong, the accepted in a herd of fucking idiots. Laughing at those sad depressed who cry make you feel contempt for them, those others. Those other people who actually seek help are the brave and clever ones. They need every bit of encouragement they can get. To heal one’s mind is hard work and some people are ready to do that. People who want to get better change the world.

Sometimes all one can do is to cry. Crying with someone who actually cares. Emotional outbreaks are banned in macho world, seen as pathetic and weak. You are strong this way is the slogan and stereotype considered acceptable. Strong here is physical and sadistic. Wrong kind of shallow strong is the kind that puts people down, kills, takes away human worth. It is our social system that gives abusers and violators credit. Our system systematically encourages violent behavior, encourages bullies.

Football fields provide safe spaces for girls in an informal settlement in South Africa. –

Oh Na, what can you do? Oh Na, what can you do? Oh Na.

Liposuction, eating disorders and sexual coercion: High fashion’s ugly secrets THURSDAY, FEB 13, 2014

http://www.salon.com/2014/02/13/liposuction_eating_disorders_and_sexual_coercion_high_fashions_ugly_secrets/?utm_source=twitter&utm_medium=socialflow

Me object me object you subject, you someone, me something, you everything me nothing

Special quality of you who has eyes versus not very special quality of mine who has skin is a battleground situation. Hands to protect, brain to destroy. That we are different in multiple ways beginning from intellect to sex, position to finance and all the way to background, origin and place of living. The foundation of human relations is unbelievably shallow in its possible diversity, and what comes to being a woman among the ’civilized’ ’well-educated’ people with means who wish to protect what they have got in whatever ways they possibly can, is in its reality predatory. Keeping the stage steady the successful throwing little bits and pieces around for those who will fetch and catch. Amount of arrogance is spectacular, despair to succeed is sad. Anybody who might jeopardize this ’modern’ power structure, play and illusion of the better and something worth reaching out must be put down and silenced, minimized and belittled, because what would be better than what they have got.

This of course is repetition of the horror created by contemporary people and is sadly human behaviour endlessly happening and doing harmful things in repeat. Nothing new to me and to many, but possibly it is news to those who seriously are in belief of extraordinary quality and talent of theirs and truly seek the power element to stand on. As these qualities of theirs are proved by extraordinary experts and professionals whom we like to believe because they are experts. We must believe that those who make decisions know what they are doing and are able to choose correctly with what is just, true and right. We must believe in people’s integrity and honesty, but it is made quite impossible. There are few people one can trust if any. 


 

” ‘You,’ your joys and your sorrows, your memories and your ambitions, your sense of personal identity and free will, are in fact no more than the behavior of a vast assembly of nerve cells and their associated molecules.” Notice the scare quotes around you. “You” think that you are something special, a subject who experiences joys and sorrows, memories, ambitions, a sense of identity and a free will. But that, Crick wants to inform you, is an illusion. “You” are an object. “You” are your body, a collection of nerve cells, albeit enmeshed amidst many other kinds of cells.”
http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/09/28/the-benefits-of-binocularity/?_php=true&_type=blogs&_php=true&_type=blogs&_r=1

…and what comes to intellect, it is more complex than your face. Those who in repeat pass on hurt and ill are those who have some deep hideous mental problems. That they deny it is part of the problem. How deep can you get?

Letting go of victimhood. 

 

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Drunken sunken

Problem in the use of alcohol lies for one in the awkwardness of drunken behavior that occurs for men and women in many ways and can cause inescapable trouble. It is mostly fun to be drunk, funny, enjoyable and ridiculous. It is that women should not be drunk in public. I think nor should men. It is possible behavior changes from horrid to disastrous, violent and teary. Personality gets groovy with enough alcohol, atmosphere can get groovier. The unfortunate thing is that it is easy to rape a drunken woman, treat her badly like she is a target because she is unable to behave rationally and she looks ridiculous and is vulnerable. And she is stupid enough to be drunk. As rules that apply in everyday would not matter in a situation of intoxication.
Alcohol is not suitable for anybody to use to be drunk often. It is not good for you. Women tolerate it less than men. In this country alcoholism is a nonstop problem. To me it seems it is a norm in Finnish culture. People who use alcohol and are seen drunk often are looked down on. It is not seen as self-medication or anaesthetic but losing a grip of life. Alcoholics are seen as weak problematic fools who have lost control over their lives. Behind all that drinking is emotional trauma of which one cannot get over on one’s own.

We have an ideology of self-help and survival of the fittest. Help yourself up or end up in gutter maybe you deserve what you get. It is strength not to speak of your problems and it  is unbearably difficult to seek professional help. As it was after the wars in Finland people were left alone to survive the traumas caused. How did they survive? One survives when there is no other possibility with tools that are there. I think some results of our survival are with us as depression, suicides and alcoholism prevail. For men it can be a show off for a while to be a drunken hero, and for young people it is more about having fun than drowning sorrows and angst. But it does not take your problems away, it makes them bigger.

As much as Finland is dear to me our drinking culture and unspeakable silence are things I do not wish to continue. It is frightening to begin to open and solve the mess inside but once you do you will be amazed how it changes you.

Men’s fears towards femininity that breathes outside regulated cocooned womanhood. What is a woman?

She left her panties and other underwear on the floor without thinking much who would see them as she does with all her clothes, dropping them off liking to watch them herself as constellations of random and a day; cotton, lace and strings, used, changed, private creatures which a minute ago were pressed against her body and let loose. Memory of a cloth has parts of her form. What is so disgusting about it she does not understand but tries maybe that is what she likes because she has to be pure and clean to be liked. She does not leave her clothes on the floor to stay there for weeks but just for a moment, she is not that disturbed.. It is a moment of absent-mindedness, carelessness and something of herself she likes to examine, her relationship to all. It is that she does not behave like she should behave well-mannered especially when she is alone. There are windows, anybody can see in. She malfunctions and is dislocated in places like arms, in places that are sterile and in perfect order and under control that nothing breathes there, like finding perfection in death. Demand for sterile body is against life’s natural flow, decay and against nature in her, her dirtiness, her will and her femininity that smells. Why are you so horrified but you still want to barge in, invade her and her privacy to watch her wrongness to blame her and accuse her for her being wrong not being like a norm of the civilised. Do you lack something when you do that or is it just power you like over her? Do you notice what you lack? Act of curious and wish to speak about what an abomination she is. What did she do? Fears of men have become fears of women fulfilling stripped and solid perfection to be admired. We are raised to think superiority is sterile environment just as a superior race would be. Shame of what did she do. Shame that is experienced because of her, for her and what she is.

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My cock, my realness, touch my realness

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Moral outrage? What is your moral obligation if you have one or any?

http://www.foreignpolicy.com/articles/2014/08/01/attention_deficit_disorder_economy_nigeria_gaza_caring?utm_content=buffer6b52e&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer

How does it burst is that there happens something that breaks the back of an imaginary camel. How horrible, we must do something. The thing is that stages of emergency are out there all the time, but which ones break the media to put it out so we well off far away can hear about it. Luckily our current social media extravaganza provides solutions to make a show that makes it possible to create huge life saving projects which may possibly do something and possibly not. We have our morals which we like to praise and we pose as good people who defend the weak and stand up against injustice. We must do something. What is it we actually do is we entertain. There are so many people who stand against the lunacy of evil of people who it should be a world without violence and bad deeds, shouldn’t it. But it is getting worse. Violence is incredibly blown out of any proportion long ago, but we like to smile for media to make it and pose. I hope we make it. Question is what can we do other than post photographs with written messages to the world? They are not enough nor morally acceptable way of dealing anything. BringBackOurGirls?