adults
Quest for presentable.
How culture pushes us to mold our appearance into admired package to be wanted? We want to be wanted. What are those forces that do not give us permission to be accepted as such, as we desire to look like, but make us follow given patterns and imitate images that show who are wanted? Is it due to beauty norms which all the time change as does fashion, what is hip and what to have, what to be, where to be? Isn’t it weakness to follow beauty norms of others, to let one’s mind be dictated by machinery that only cares about profit? It is the weakness of modernism, modern man, and also as such a contradiction as modern man is supposed to be individual and original maker of one’s fate.
The most I have faced the norms is by men who have very strict norms for women in mind meaning that a woman is a continuation to a man to stand by a man and is seen with a man as his. Everything is measured from head to toe. Woman is to be with a man to complement him to bring him something extra. She is his choice either good or bad. Idea is to manipulate environment believe how good this man is. The thought of a man who is seen with this and this kind of woman and what of it. To accept and value woman as equal person is extremely difficult to implement in a world where woman is an object without capabilities other than what are believed to be hers. It is a sad reality of how life for us to live is for eyes of others to show off, continue a wreck culture. Basic thoughts of women as for someone to mold in order to serve and please.
Then the question of affording something. When do we think about not having afford and why is that idea about lacking and inadequacy? Depending on need, is it a question of demand?
Lack of finance is the obvious reason, but still we get loans when we need to buy something more expensive than our resources allow us do and we think about buying something probably daily. Money is an addiction causing addictive behavior from which we cannot escape because our thinking and way of life is based on consuming, exchange of capital, possessions, debt, wealth, acts of selling and buying. When we begin to learn a new language the first things that are taught in foreign language are how one speaks in a situation of asking how much something costs, situations of exchange of money, to say please, thank you and of course the weather and where to travel. It would be strange and freeing if the first words one would learn in foreign language were to think about why we do what we do. My point being that without giving it much thought we teach people accept things without criticism without questioning and those who make books for schooling do not ever question the way things are done and so everything moves on as it ever has because those are the things we have to learn. What can we afford and how to ask for the price.
Thought of not visiting any shops may sound odd for people who are grown into a culture where shopping is basic way of expressing oneself, spending time and wealth or dreaming about wealth and objects wandering around malls. Shopping is to know that what one can afford maybe without thinking if one can afford. Act of shopping can produce pleasant feelings of purchasing, owning something new and exciting making the owner somehow better. When we cannot afford feelings of inadequacy easily creep in. Buying is giving a power feeling, person is somehow in power, in control of his or her life making experience of life to expand via things and usage of money, a pleasant situation. To have money and more one has it is giving the person a position from where the person can view on others and those who do not have the same. Opportunities may become more variable. If one sees the world made only via money what does it do to the idea of the making man who can and will, is rich in ideas and opportunities? Evaluation can begin. What is possible? What what is worth, how much a person is worth when that person has what she or he has. What is there to have?
Poverty is not a virtue. It is a fault, flaw, disgusting and making people sub-human, not worthy of addressing to, taken care of, provided for, listened to. In a world of money masters are those who have the most. Poverty is not a virtue anymore as it means person is not able to take part in the party of consumerism to be something. Without what are we?
Threatening woman is to be threatened. Woman as a threat to norm is powerful.
It is interesting to talk about sub-being, sub-human, since it is clear despite the beautiful talks and speeches the inequality is kept alive because it is serving and pleasing, nourishing vanity and desire to be powerful in relation to others. But the groundbreaking changes always tend to begin from the ground, within below point, in despair and a kind of dead-end. The more people drop on to the ground to be spat at and left behind as unnecessary the more anger and need for change there will be. Those who refuse the role of only to-survive-you-need-to-do-this, to whom it is not good enough to be instructed how to live in a world that is based on extortion and lies, will grow bigger as mass to threaten stability of the ruling few. The more there will be ultra-rich the more there are those who wonder why such enormous wealth concentrates in so few hands. How is it possible and who allows it?
Within the world of making money and making it, being a woman is out of ordinary. It is wondered how she did it. The disbelief is unbelievable. How is it possible to have a mind of one’s own, is this what is the question? When woman is a threat to male clubs, male rule and dominance it is a wonder how women make it. Another wonder is why the difficulty and threat? From whom is it away to see women succeed?
Bodies online
To wish to be average and normal is the worst kind of idiocy there is.
I have sometimes wished it because it has been so difficult to be me. It has been difficult to notice how above average is not hoped for, wanted, because it is seen as below the average, as something bad and wrong. To find excellent and to know it yourself, to be excellent is what one should work for always. Demand it for yourself. To know what is excellent and good one has to understand it and believe it. In search for excellence and unique people settle for what they get thinking that is the best there is for them or that other has the best and we should want the same or beat that other when one there is to beat is themselves. Logic is often lost and people wish to seek the comfort of a crowd to blend in, still and want what other people have. No wonder it is demanding to be an artist, a feminist and a dissident, all those things scare people because of the radical nature of those, of those labels, stigmas, ways to see life, forces of nature, because nature is scary and to be under control. It is scary when we don’t know it, when we don’t respect it and protect it and it is in us for us to find. It. The best you can be.
Personal confession, personal experience as a woman. Bias and suspicion, the most average shit there is.
Mental illness is something to hide and be ashamed of, even though it is not up to you whether you get sick or not.
”Today’s NBA is filled with players who come from less-than-stable circumstances. Their very presence in the league — even if they’re nothing more than a towel-waver— is a testament to their fortitude and ability to better themselves.” https://medium.com/the-cauldron/what-crazy-looks-like-mental-illness-in-the-nba-4b7459a52bd7
Topic I know all too well. Crazy is a word often used of artists, people who walk different paths than most, who choose to live in a way that is out of mainstream. It is strange how little things may seem crazy and scary to people who seek comfortable and familiar, want to live in security following rules and guides how to live a life and do not want to know, learn, be close to nor get to know the unknown, try themselves or the environment because they are scared. To chose safe is the craziest thing, to choose so that you won’t challenge yourself is also stupid.
Ladylike Sniff Sniff, ladies like it.
Smell Mein Führer
Fragrance that brings instant feeling of power on your face, for you, habitus in your hands, on and around you all day. While splashing odor you can hear screaming women and children. Aroma of blood, sweat, tears, piss, leather, nails and steal. You rule, you kill, you smell.
Majakollektiivi Timanttimetsä 