How to be

A constant puzzlement for me have been the expectations and rules that are set for us to maintain something that is restricting and a ban on difference. Prohibiting, monitoring, policing, minimising and keeping us from evolving as humans to our full potential is something that must be followed without any fact-based reasoning, without questioning because those who question spoil the fun. There are people who know better what is good.

Suspicion and blame, a constant negative outlook on who and what somebody is and can be, what one can become. That something being a life which is made for us to live on idea level, not us making our lives as we wish life to be. Since we must belong to be obedient and hide is or would be sufficient method to survive. Anyone who pursues a groundbreaking change to something that is seen as normal, is a threat. Threat of violence is a simple way to keep fear alive. Normal is the conspicuous consumption, gendered professional life, gendered looks, gendered everything, living for fun and to possess and think that is something personal and unique, something we choose to do, not because we must. Partly we do choose and think we are free, partly we must consume and be part of a culture, a monoculture which keeps a tight leash. Despite our yearning for unique experiences, stubborn idea of owning our destiny, our amusement and life choices, being in control and doing things in our own terms, we are quite a herd of single direction, followers. Independent thinking and going upstream is demanding, often asking too much because there is much to lose. How much are we willing to sacrifice for common good?
When we lose our independence and ability to decide for ourselves, possibilities to impact on how decisions are made, who makes them, how we are monitored and dictated or are we watched at all, without understanding how complex whirl of invisible factors and manipulating part takers there are, who takes advantage of how the world of ours works, what happens and why, we are lost. Many choose not to know or care. It is easier. Things we are sold are to make our lives easier. Mountains of plastic and electronic waste are not results of an easy process. It is only turning of backs to the problems and complexity.
Question is how to be and live in such a devious atmosphere where fun is hurtful without taken much notice, and many choices we make are taken for granted as they can be taken just like that, very easily, and are possibly the wrong ones. The right thing to do is to say no, refuse. Wrong happens somewhere we do not see, it does not concern us, we cannot imagine it because it is not us to whom the wrong happens. What is wrong then? It takes an empathetic mind to see how one’s actions inflict and affect.

To be human

Listen to Gossip page

Did you hear the gossip? What was the gossip about and of whom? What did that person do and how did you hear about it? Why is the thing gossip and why is it talked about? Is it a private matter of someone, that got revealed and is now getting out of proportion? How does that make you feel and how do you feel when you talk about the issue? How do you think it is any concern of yours? What is the truth value in this and what the value of telling this story forward to anybody? What kind of world do you think gossip makes and what kind of humanity it reveals?

Did you hear the gossip? Who did you hear it from? How did this person come across this information and what did he think of it? Did he think of it as absolute truth or something to trash somebody with?

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2012

Hate speech and freedom of expression

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To think about what we must censor, not show and talk about, make an interesting map of how we are expected to behave and be, what we can do and who monitors what we can do (is it me?), how we must do in order to belong and not cause conflict as we like comfort and stability. I claim that conflict is a compulsory element of becoming, understanding, learning and about all essential issues we must know about life and ourselves. We appear via conflict. With essential things I mean really concretely face dilemmas and walls within. This process takes hard work which is annoying part of learning. It is pushing, not only yourself but those who you come across. This is a very at the core issue for me as I never accept things and life as it is given to me, as I in other people’s opinion should. So a conflict after a conflict I become and am becoming whole. Those who conflict me, may realise something about themselves or may not because it is in repeat the need to agree, need to like, need to please and need to be nice when there really should be happening the opposite. To disagree, to debate, to do differently and say the conflicting opinion or fact out loud.

Gender rules do apply to me strongly, not because I wish them to but because they exist for me to keep me in place. I cannot be a buddy but a lollipop sucking sexy and horny female. I cannot be a serious, thinking academic but a joke. Those are the one stereotypes I conflict with because it is strange for a girl and someone who looks like me do things that do not traditionally interest or belong to women like me. I get this, I really get this. The stereotype isolates me, it pains me still and it truly is restricting and I don’t have to say anything. So if I am not allowed to object my objectification by doing what I do as I please, if I cannot be seen in any other way than sexually, in need of penetration, in need of attention as a gendered toy, which for some equals fun or love, it is a sorry world. I cannot have strong noteworthy opinions and ideas about politics, art, science because it is difficult for some to take me seriously, I do take a strong point and go to an extreme which will make a point.

Slashing of negativity, doubt, suspicion, minimising, leaving outside, turning back and abandoning are the conflicts of everyday for people who dare to do differently and are those who stick out. It is hate and hate speech which can go unnoticed by those who do it because it is an accepted way to deal with difference and out of ordinary things and people. It does not mean one should accept the way things are and be glad for the difficulty given, even though it is inevitable.

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