You know how to fly?

Missing girl

How do we measure civilization? Sophistication and culture traditionally and etymologically equal civilization.

How much civilization is born from tradition, religion, idea of good and resentment for bad? We think we live in civilized world, we think we know what it is to be civilized. We can to some extent behave as civilized, we learn to respect other humans, have manners and make conversation. To have decency and education make an assumption those things lead to having civilized people. It is of course good assumption and we should expect people to know what is civilized and what is not, how to apply civilization gained and when to rebel against it. Education of heart and mind as those both are needed to make a civilized person can still be hard to find which leads me thinking from where does civilization begin? Kindness for some reason does not get one the high status needed as an educated mind does, reason and knowing are the most valued assets in our society. How do we measure civilization now when we can have all we dream of having? In a world where ownership has been a key to having education it has been a closely linked thought that money can buy an educated mind, buy status, assumption can be that sophistication follows when you can buy things, that wealth and bourgeois life style mean knowledgeable and refined humanity. It is in the expressions, in style, way to walk and talk. There is a strong us and them in the picture and history of classes which has meant those who a more civilized than those others and they don’t mix. How does sophistication fit in such world really one can ask.

Most stunned I am how persistently bias live on, that people are convinced their thinking they know is absolutely correct and such bias and idea of superiority is very difficult to change.

To learn to think otherwise seems to be the hardest thing to do as it means consciously admitting flawed judgment and thinking, knowingly changing one’s perspectives and point of views which are often learned and hard stuck as there may be the whole community who thinks the same and with that same thinking assume they are correct and cannot be proven otherwise. Collective wrong thinking can be seen as the most harmful way of humanity doing wrong on regular basis which regularly tend to repeat over and over until there are enough people who stand against ill patterns of society/people, of a group of same. Most appalling situation is when one has to convince a group of similar minded jackasses, convince after convincing, prove after proving, results happen so slowly when minds are made up, when world views are stuck as if Earth was center of the Universe again and again. Biggest blasphemy of all is to show prove that men are not the most intelligent self-evidently, the best at everything, know everything and to show that men can be corrected, talked over, punched back, argued with, questioned. Authority that cannot be questioned is losers’ authority. To take authority and primal stage of having a say over mean to take responsibility. It means one is capable of giving spotlight for others, for diversity of others, it does not mean having right to rule and judge. To think you are among civilized people can be proven wrong every day makes a strange picture of people and what is true. Civilized? I haven’t been thinking mankind is civilized for a long time now. Civilized people do not hurt just because they can.

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2015/09/20/pakistan-violence-schools-girls-my-law-plan-international_n_8164716.html?utm_hp_ref=ukHe is realistic that it will take years to change a society where “boys are by definition born with authority and virtually given immunity to being corrected”.http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/professor-louise-serpell/rosalind-franklin-female-scientists_b_8146848.html
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2015/08/08/the-book-that-shocked-tinsel-town.html?utm_content=bufferc6247&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitterbfi&utm_campaign=buffer
http://www.middleeasteye.net/in-depth/features/female-guerrilla-fighters-pkk-2044198184“A woman can’t feel free just by pursuing her own individual freedom – she has to struggle for the liberation of all the other women too,” says Rashat. “In the PKK, our main goal is to uproot from the girls’ minds all the misconceptions hailed from male-dominated societies. Women need to find their mental freedom before anything else.””

Walking with a bottle

 

 

Drawing is a test which is what makes drawing intimidating, if you think it is a test. If you think it is a method of finding it will be something more. It is evidence of something and unpredictable when it is an unknown practise. Lines don’t always go the way you want. How do you find the perfect line?

Children draw intuitively from the minute they take a pencil in hand after having put pencil in mouth, after having chewed and tasted the tool, after having trashed the paper. To see what those tools do, what can be done with them. When drawing becomes very controlled technique to master or not master and one can become scared of being judged, scared of paper, scared of someone looking because of flaws are there, because results are not impeccable. I guess it is the same with singing. We can be scared of showing our voice and flaws we may make when we let loose our voice. To repeat something seen as it is seen, how does it happen and what do we see? Do we see the same when we do not experience the same? Beauty of hand-drawn mark, image made which is unique, line which is unique, uniqueness is the beauty which machines rarely can achieve. To be scared of making and creating line of your own is to be scared of your uniqueness which is different in comparison to others and think there is something wrong and flawed with your mark and personal voice.

 http://www.blunderbussmag.com/what-happened-fu-manchu/

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Taking liberties of telling someone how she or he should live,what to be, do, say and think.

We like to think we have power over others and also like to think it is something we are entitled to having and using as much as there is room for such use of power and abuse. Especially what comes to women, young ones particularly, are thought that they are there to be molded, told what to do in life and made to fit ideals of other people. Constant commenting on looks, sexiness, way of walking, what girls and women should do and should not do, policing of present and future by giving instructions, dos and don’ts. It is a long list of instructions that flow in front of a young person which is expected for that person to follow and take seriously. Instructions given by people who take authority because that other person seems fragile and easy to mold. My experience is that any objection is seen hostile and unjustified rebellion because a fragile person does not have rights. A seemingly fragile and small person probably does not think for herself, is not capable of deciding for herself. It is quite unbelievable to witness such totalitarian order which young people are thought they should inevitably and without resisting grow into. Discouragement and lack of mental support can be overwhelming. You have to have pretty feisty temper, have proud self-image and idea of yourself, have a focused determination to do what you want to do and be. The best expert of you is yourself. Tricky part is when you will find that thing of yours in which to believe completely.

http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/by-banning-skinny-catwalk-models-we-blame-women-for-eating-disorders–and-ignore-the-real-reasons-10507425.htmlThe truth is that our body image is based on a range of factors – factors that include how we are seen by others, but also our sense of what our bodies can and can’t do, how good our bodies feel to us, and how much we feel our bodies define and shape who were are. None of these is simply dependent on how we compare our bodies to other people’s bodies. Our sense of self (of which body image is one component) is built up in more complex webs of social interaction that shape our sense of who we are, what is important about us, how we see ourselves.”