That sexism thing, it’s really big.

You know.
It is so big an issue we consider it normal. Normal how? Normal in feminist discourse, normal topic at work? Most don’t see sexism as violence or damaging since it is part of our nature to be sexual in a very open way, think about sex, look sexy, look for sex. Some see it one way to approach and flatter, to get what one wants. We don’t either see sexism at all but think it as a form of acceptable expression which is cool and basic human behavior or we ignore sexism easily because it is so everyday or we are afraid to bring it up because it is dangerous or shameful even though it is normal. Quite a contradiction. It is normal differently for women and for men. It is a difficult issue to talk about because the one who brings it up can get in trouble, may not be taken seriously, possibly will get hurt etc. Sexism is so normalized that people may find sex the only interesting thing about a person and only things that are interesting are sexy, about sex, for sex.

 

Intellect of anything. Do butterflies have intellect or is it intellect of nature which they follow?

Intellect is connected with self-consciousness, ability to develop oneself disregarding the natural state one could be in thinking what one could, should be and would be, how else to do, how many options there are for that person to take advantage and see solutions. It is awareness and learning of one’s abilities, possibilities and what is around, learning by looking, imitating, inventing, trying out, failing, seeing ways to evolve with what one has and putting things together. It is not enough to have information you have to know what to do with it. It is to see oneself as one self with something special to contribute. It is to be able to manipulate, calculate, think for oneself, see consequences of actions, be able to realize oneself as individually capable being and solve the complexity rather than escape it. Intellect is itself complex to the point we are not clear yet what it is. We still dwell in the old concept of intellect and are very quick to think of knowing what intellect is. The concept of intelligent things and beings and intelligence in people we many times like to keep alive as one-sided, thin and inaccurate. It could be mixed with a loud bully who is rich. To be able to make a fortune equals intellect in this world. It means one is able to play the game of the market, ready to take risks knowing circumstances, map of the market and ready to put oneself there in the game.

The idea of what intellect is, is more an illusion, what gets our attention and gets noticed most and as such keeps the old structures of society as they have been. Where intellect is found can surprise as deeds talk mightier than words. Who has intellect, how it actualizes itself in our every day when it seems to have vanished but still we think we are very clever. Doing what? It is stitched into and stamped on, held on though it is gone, sown and hammered in a way that it stays on the surface rather than would be thoroughly understood, weight, respected, found and known, if you know what I mean. Simple solutions can be brilliant but be simple and oversimplify complexity is stupid. It is a possession and quality hastily judged which deed itself shows lack and disrespect towards intellect as it is something that measures carefully looking into details and nuances rather than glancing fast without second thought. Intellect has been a possession of the upper classes and has been seen as result more than something that all could have and cultivate. High-born more than peasants, men more than women, adults more than children, money men more than poor men.

It is the most talked about characteristic and trait of anything. We may say that something is frivolous, meaningless, something is difficult and something stupid is easy, light-headed. Intellect is high and stupidity is low. It is to pay attention, ask, learn, but it is not to underestimate because nothing is meaningless. The mere label can do a great deal of damage especially when those labels given get stuck and are taken as such without questioning why it is so, who says, who decided this and why it could not be looked further, why it could not be something else. True stupidity is to believe without second thought, not to see underneath, not to do research and learn from that and believe old truths are true always. Something said becomes a label and fable when said repeatedly like a fate made by people. There is more than meets the eye is true wisdom. To play a broken record on and on, as does mankind in repeat doing the same mistakes over and over again. Things and beings represent something that have intellectual capital of certain amount. Intellectual capital gives value in cases where there is vast public awareness by this capital, what this intellectual capital is and value of what? It has contributed to make general innovations, understanding of facts and truths, made our comprehension wider about the world and ourselves. How we find intellect is to find meaning and more importantly how do we find intellect of our own and evolve and how we see evolving.

To learn value of things and beings, what truly is precious goes beyond intellect. We make a mistake when we stop there and start admiring intellect. Intellect is a tool. We are taught who is who, whom we should be afraid of and why, where value and strength come from, what is valuable, what it is to be strong. We learn to unappreciated ourselves as intelligent learners and makers when atmosphere is set in a way who can be intelligent and what it is to be intelligent. It is to put something and someone on to their place which place is dictated not necessarily actively chosen. To call someone or something stupid is to take no interest further. It is to verbally say out loud where you stand compared to what you deem stupid and beneath you because you are more clever. To judge is to deny development. To say she is an idiot means there is not anything other than irritating non-intellectual nonsense she drivels, does and represents. She is useless. She or he is worthless because of this judgement. There is not anything in her or him that is interesting to you, is valuable in what she does and says. She or he is seen through in that moment like a nonperson whose value is taken.

North Country (1/10) Movie CLIP – Take it Like a Man (2005) HD

https://maryreview.com/trucking/?src=longreads ” “It was demeaning and degrading. [They acted like] the only reason I was there was to sleep with everyone.” She says she observed an on-duty terminal manager at Riverside who appeared to overhear sexual remarks directed at her but ignored them.” …”The trucking industry’s attitude toward women is antiquated, she says. “A woman entering trucking doesn’t have anyone looking out for them. Some people may say that they want to help, but the guys stick together.””

To take it like a man can mean that you have mental strength to face anything that comes to you be that bullying, harassment, rape, any act of violence and mental abuse. It also means to be able to have friends/buddies/allies who take care of you, who stand behind you and defend you, who understand and back your cause. That group sticks together and the one who stands alone against will stay alone unless there is legal help who is unbiased and neutral. It is one kind of show of power where justice is found within the group, with the help of the group, justice which is invention of their own and serves interests of the special group.

To become a mean bitch means one is saying what one thinks, not liking what one is getting, not liking what one sees and hears. I am stating it is sickening to look at you, what you do and choose not to do.

There are things I like but this is not it. What is it that women are given? Women should be grateful for everything is the default. To be grateful is something else. Yes one can be grateful but content for what one is given, to settle to this oppression, sexism, sadism, torture you offer I never will and truly hope no one else will either. Situation is not changing for any better, you are stupider than I ever thought was possible, abyss of stupidity swallows all. Oh well I haven’t appreciated intellect of humans enough and I still probably don’t. The same is the situation in general. Intellectuals are those who speak up and against, they act when they see injustice. That is the number one characteristic of an intellectual.
Thank you for the praises for the looks, for the clothes, for the ass, for looking so youthful, for being so nice and smiling like I really meant it all the time. It means that I am very happy and content all the time and because I like you guys just because I like guys :). Yes I suck your dick gladly. It is my duty and delight, how delicious. How fucking dare you. Most men and women are immature jackasses who think they are centers of the universe. I should like you? Why the fuck should I. I don’t have such manners and sleaziness in me to like people who do not have backbone. No reason. There is no liking. Liking is mere air, push of a button, virtual reality but what does it resonate is nothingness. There is contempt, hatred, foulness, bitterness, backstabbing, world led by indifferent asslickers who don’t wish to make a difference because they are scared. People are scared little fuckers, scared to stick ones’ necks out for a cause, for someone else. World is ruled by self-interest purely to destruction.

Men who

Men who ask whether you have anything sexy to wear, tight. Sure, and if I don’t, I’ll go and buy some, of course, what wouldn’t I do for male pleasure. Men who ask whether they can come by on Monday morning and do I have lubricate. They ask do I like being fucked in the ass, do I like my asshole licked. I wash the sheets afterwards. Men think they can come and then go and it should be fine because they are men and this is just sex. Men may ask whether they can eat me, whether I will eat them, whether I make the initiative, whether I fuck like an animal, how far will I go as far as sex goes. Men who send their erection in a photograph and ask whether I got scared. No it is normal. You do not scare me with a picture of your erected penis, picture with sperm on your belly after you have masturbated. You thought I got scared? Why? So you do consider my feelings. Women are scared of men? Why on earth? Men to whom I tell what I like they listen and do what they want. I ask what do they want. Men who do whatever they please, so why shouldn’t I do what I like?

Men who do not consider protection but leave it for a woman to think and it is woman’s task to demand men to use a condom: oh, do I have to. I don’t have any diseases. Men who think they are the only ones, but I don’t see the spark. I really do not see any respect or consideration even though you say I have a dick and balls. What did I expect? It is more than I could ever imagine, worse. The worse is that the imagined is true.

You get turned on when women are scared of you? You feel powerful when you inflict fear?

Some torture

Sexism is always present. Some people notice it because they face sexism often. It is some kind of a norm and to a point accepted. Silence is accepting. When no one acts against sexist behavior nothing happens to the problem. For some people sexism is a way to show feelings. They probably don’t know any other way to show feelings they have. They are afraid to act in different way, it would require actually wanting to know the other person.

Emotional reactions can be surprising. If they don’t hit us, surprise and put us out of balance what else is there. Why is that we need our emotions for?
They are supposed to guide us, it is task of emotions to shake us. How do we know to which things we can laugh at and to which not? How do we get to be compassionate?
Emotional is female
emotional is forbidden, there is no honor in emotion
it is hidden burst beneath until you cannot hide anymore or they turn against you
narcissism, egoism, self-loath, self-destruction, fetishism, masochism, pleasing to a limit until you cannot anymore hide and just take it
until you cannot stand it anymore

I have been very distressed by oversexualisation, staring and straight forward verbal pressure to objectify myself.

And very much lost with my body in my youth. I thought I was ugly. 🙁

My body is a maze and I am space. Including ugliness, which I always look for since there is beauty in it. So my beautiful is probably not yours.

As a female born bad

How is it the very thought of my sex is somewhat crooked from the beginning, something to look forward is trouble? An early pregnancy, protecting virtuous femininity, tell her of the dangers, you are fragile you cannot, but still I am so strong that I must carry worries of others, they are given to me as a gift, still I am so strong that my beauty takes me to places, that my looks is my possession and my strength as my weakness and hell. It is not your concern, why would it, but yes hang on me, I’m the mightiest fucking person alive.