Demonising

As I see it, it is a normalised way to regulate, isolate, define, rule and be made feel guilty of having done and said something that has broken safety barriers of thought of how women for instance should behave, talk, dress, live etc. This is similar to politics where the ’enemy’ is demonized beyond anything imaginable to be the arch-enemy and evil on earth. It is no wonder Russia has had the label of the enemy nr 1 in people’s mind. How can I like Russia, someone asked me. There is so much to like about Russia and not to like, as there is in anything. One-sided truth is accepted because it is a machine that keeps the story alive, so much so that truth remains to be uncovered for those who go look for it and they have to dig deeper. Demonising works especially well when the enemy is fairly unknown, does things unconventionally and looks different. The one who speaks of the enemy is somewhat trusted, has authority and is known as legal truth teller knowing what is what, is close by and is verbally as visually convincing. demonizing is a basic tool to hold power, keep things unchanged because those who wish to change anything are labeled bad influences and in any way unfit to manage anything, know anything, are unreliable, rotten, threatening and unsafe to be with and be listened to. Weirdos, freaks, punks, anything that goes beyond the normalised and steady balance.

Demonizing has been used through out all times and works for those who do not know better. Anything and anyone who threatens the order of things and ways to think is often put down by the tool of telling a one-sided view, a scare, the truth, and with help of the mass who believe this given truth it can be the only info there is, only info that must be believed or otherwise you will be labeled as well. What to believe and whom to trust?

Women are and have been, as we all know, ones very fragile and poorly protected what comes to being demonized. It still does not take much rumours, dressing and behaving inappropriately to be targeted and monitored by those who themselves think are superior authorities holding mandate to judge and label. Authorities speak among themselves and forward what they see fit. To rebel against doesn’t take more than to have a different opinion and argue forcefully those who should not be argued. Why are there people who think they cannot be argued? Let me know if you know the answer. What is the absolute truth, what is the absolutely correct way to exist? For women it is clearly more narrow than for men and this unchanging state of affairs cannot be objected and forced to change? How weird is that. It takes decades and lifetimes of work and effort.

Punishments for there is devil in her, punishments against her as she lets her demon to have power over her and ruin her purity and good nature, and more importantly her devil contaminates the society and men. Amazing is how old ways of thinking and behaving stick, how labelling people makes society tic and makes hierarchy where those who have stigma are made to fall unless they have an enormous amount of faith and strength to rise above. To be alone in a hostile environment is what such person must endure wherever one goes. To jump into conclusions about people based on appearance, way to talk and what one chooses to do in life is of course something we are bound to do regardless of whether we try not to judge.

Much of pop culture test our limits of acceptable and toy with our conceptions about proper and stability. To play a bitch, witch, sex goddess, nymphomaniac, addict etc. belongs tightly to culture of idols. This is also what art at its best does. It tests and questions authority and our rules of acceptable. To raise abomination, judgement, scandals, abandon safety and conformity.

 

Why women drink? Excellent essay by Kristi Coulter in Quartz.

https://qz.com/762868/giving-up-alcohol-opened-my-eyes-to-the-infuriating-truth-about-why-women-drink/ ”The magazines telling me strong is the new sexy and smart is the new beautiful, as though strong and smart are just paths to hot. The Facebook memes: muscles are beautiful. No, wait: fat is beautiful. No, wait: thin is beautiful, too, as long as you don’t work for it. No, wait: All women are beautiful! As though we are toddlers who must be given exactly equal shares of princess dust, or we’ll lose our shit.”

Drunk passed out

 

 

My interest in Marilyn is interest in how the dilemma of gender culminates in one person so perfectly

What is spoken of her and why. What do people want to know, what is of interest for anyone in a beautiful woman. What do we pay attention to and why she is seen via her sex which seems to dictate all she can do, how she can be and must do, how she must do to make an effect. She is an effect, a special effect on the set. That is her purpose. Her value seems pretty infinite despite she is ripped off her value as a multi talented person. Her value is partly in the tragedy of not having achieved enough professionally that she is diminished no matter what she accomplished and modelled to be something  to which she contributes voluntarily because it seems she had no other choice. This no other choice to succeed but via the sexual part of a blond shell is part of the puzzle for me. To have a lot but be limited as an artist by the system and the way women are seen.

Those are the terms to succeed is like a plan given. Do as you are told and this is what is wanted of you. This is what the public wants to see, you are for yes only (I mean eyes), to pleasure others. Why is this what is thought the public wants or are we so simple-minded it really is what we want? It puzzles me still although it is clear in a way that the public is infinitely narrow-minded and seeks to be entertained in the simplest of ways. That is also what gossip is all about. That is also the trap in to which entertainment industry constantly steps: repeating the same imagery and narrative which is luring, attention seeking, fabulous visually and repeating the gender roles and stereotypes as if nothing ever changes, and yes things do change slowly. Something else than the real life and not so much.

My interest is in how someone is talked about. What becomes of this tale which is continued, passed forward. What is the story people like to give, they believe it themselves, what are their motives, what is the truth and what are the reasons for telling the story. Who knows the truth and who is a reliable witness. Because what is being said and what is the reality can be very different from each other so much so that surreal is the reality. What people believe is the truth is bound to bias and what is wanted to be seen as the truth. How personal experience of someone is true and what is the value of telling this personal view forward.

A person who is dimensional but does not show all of her dimensions is infinitely interesting obviously applies to women. To believe women are able to achieve excellence takes work for some men and women. Simplicity and less are easier to believe to be true and accept than someone who is much. Much is difficult to control and tolerate.

Can you tell what is the meaning of sex? The core meaning for our existence?

Is it an instant gratification to show one’s penis to strange women? It is seen today as something else than hundred years ago. It is a bit difficult still to capture the whole meaning of the theatre of image, all of them and difficult to see the mind behind nude photos which are an empowerment culture for free sex and do what you want. Dirty and naughty that is done maybe for laughs, maybe for other reasons which surely are many. Image of a penis is not enough to turn on no matter how pretty the organ is, well-shaped, large or what direction it is pointing at.

I really want this, should probably be the answer, which makes me ask why is it so that women are perceived differently here than men. Is it the question where goes the line of acceptable and prohibited and this line must be crossed to make an effect. An unstoppable need to know one is being wanted and seen in an openly sexist way, see this, all the things done with this thing shown and more to come if you are willing. I’ll be good to you. Portrait of a one way street. What is the moment when we look at genitals and what do we see in them? If you have seen enough, it is naive to think sex is what we live for, what keeps us alive maybe or definitely. To cross lines works up till it doesn’t anymore. Maybe it, sexism and harassment, is important when we need to breed and that is why visibility matters, I don’t know. It must have other meaning than having power and direct effect, a success.

Sexually implied harassment is an every day event. To be seen and desired as a sexual being who is aggressive in thinking and having sex, it is the most fun to people or you can have it and that hunting and showing off one’s sexual drive plus ability bring the high in life even unfilled, that act of playing and poking the ice, breaking the ice with all that heat from your sexy body and attitude radiating via electric cords and the way you walk and talk, is justified and ok. What kind of culture makes people think all want the same things and should like this.

The most of you being your penis is not much and it is not a turn on but off. Reason for me to inquire is that the need to bring the subject forward, act of sexism fucking a mind, fucking in mind disregarding consequences, harassment and display are on the wall and unbelievably rampant. It is like no other part of culture, sex. I have come to think it is the energy we live from, even those who deny sex being important or are ashamed of it, such vulgarity is what is a kind of nonstop pain but tolerated because it is the fun, fun for me kind of self-centred self-pleasuring. Is it a thrill to go to a stranger and make an advance just like that, flash. That there are no ties, no other pressure than the harassment done by a person to another person who is supposed to give response of some sort. Someone who wishes to be openly sexual in predatory fashion, make verbal and visual comments thinking this is the best shit there is and play with people in hopes to end up having an act of fucking for fun. Who says yes and agrees to being used?

It must be something to people who prey online. They do not see it themselves like being wrong because the behaviour is normal, the search for fun and amusement happens in a flash of a moment, it is something made for them and theirs. It is their game which all should understand. When you turn it upside down and do it reverse, response is an utter surprise and silence, ummm. Then it is not normal anymore. There is a point when repetition mode will get tiring. It is when the majority of messages are the sort where intercourse is the main reason to contact and interact with women. To say someone is interesting and suggest anal sex and any casual meeting for you to get your release is the lamest shit, lazy, boring and unacceptable. Sure it makes me laugh out loud, still I wonder what the fuck goes on in people’s heads.

http://nautil.us/blog/the-novelist-and-critic-siri-hustvedt-raises-an-eyebrow-at-science ”There are these rather weird sexual connotations attached. The idea that women are closer to nature, which is of course out of birth, is absurd. Nobody is more or less natural than anybody else. This gets played out in a number of interesting ways.”

Sukupuolen hauraus

Vertailemme toisiamme, vertailemme sukupuolia keskenään ja asetamme rajat, jotka oletamme ovat monesti rikkomattomia. Miehet ovat ja naiset ovat jotakin. He tekevät asiat miesmäisesti tai naismaisesti. Miesvaltaisella alalla on paine olla miesmäinen, joten hame päällä töihin on heikko valinta tai että kulkee bussilla työmatkat. Näinkin pienistä asioista voi syntyä iso jupina umpimielisessä porukassa. Naisen tekemät asiat ruoditaan tarkasti toisin kuin miehen. Mies arvioidaan autonsa ja tekemänsä työn jäljen mukaan. Toki tehdyistä virheistä muistutetaan pitkän aikaa, kun taas hyvin tehty työ on se josta ei tarvitse taputtaa selkään. Turhaan vaan ylpistyy ja kuvittelee olevansa joku.

Ajatuksen kulku on  varsin kummallista, kun nainen on työpaikalla jakamassa persettä- ajatus on oikeutettua ja se on viemässä pätevältä mieheltä työpaikan. Hauraudesta haureuteen ei ole pitkä matka seksistisessä mielessä, jossa nainen on tiettyä tarkoitusta varten ja naiset ovat kaikki samanlaisia. Haurautta osoittaa kuitenkin pelko, tiimiytyminen sitä yhtä vastaan joka on se outo ja poisajettava. Tokihan tollasen blondin voi yksissä tuumin lytätä, ei sillä mitään tee, mutta perseeseen voisin naida. Haurautta on halu minkään muuttumattomuuteen, kuvittelu omistamisen kautta saatuun vahvuuteen ja sukupuolten eriarvoisuus, jonka perinteestä halutaan pitää kynsin hampain kiinni. Usko omaan erinomaisuuteen syntyy kuinka sukupuolet kasvavat tai kasvatetaan näkemään itsensä ylempänä ja sen toisen alempana. Miten paljon alempana itse olen esimerkiksi onkin kiinnostava kysymys ja mikä funktio tasalaatuisen idioottimaisuuden ylläpitämisessä on. Tietynlainen normaalius ja balanssi jota ei voi heiluttaa, koska jotakin tärkeää menisi rikki, on ajatus maailman hajoamisesta. Jotakin mikä ei ole korjattavissa, kuten auto on. Nainen tekemässä miesten töitä on friikki ja uhka, mies tekemässä naisten töitä on ihanaa. Nainen tekemässä miesten töitä on uhka, koska mihin miehiä enää tarvitaan ja missä mies voi enää päteä kun viedään pois joku täysin oma, jota ei voi jakaa ja osata muu kuin mies.

Hauraus on väkivalloin puolustettava, jota miehistä kauneutta pidetään arvossa. Väkivallan käyttöä ja uhkaa puolustetaan hauraudella. Keinot ovat vähissä ja kaikki erilainen on uhka miehisyydelle, joka on voimaa ja vahvuutta. Ettei työnteko kovin helpoksi kävisi on työpaikalla toki oltava kaikenlaista muuta puuhaa ja piristystä. Eihän tänne töitä olla tultu tekemään, vaan osoittamaan oma kelpoisuutensa miehenä. Kiinnostavaa on miten ihminen testataan ja joko hylätään tai kelpuutetaan kaveriksi. Ai että työpaikkakiusaaminen yleistä Suomessa? Kyllä, olen kokenut sitä varsin paljon, joten näin on empiirinen tutkimukseni osoittanut. Haurashan on siis se kiusaaja, koska vahvuutta on kyky antaa tilaa ja mahdollisuus muille, että kyky olla lokeroimatta sisään tai ulos.

Portrait of a missing person

Missing person

Missing child